I know my clients are working hard not to trigger their children’s worst behaviors and sometimes they don’t know what to do when they see a tantrum looming. I am here today to inform you about your child’s tantrums and what you need to do . Click on the video to hear more:
All children have tantrums and I am here to reassure you, it’s completely normal. They usually happen due to your child’s immature brain. Generally, it’s not sufficiently developed to deal with Big Feelings in a way that is acceptable to you. It can be really frightening for you and for them and I know you may feel you lack to deal with them. Tantrums are important for brain sculpting, they can help your child to make connections in the higher brain that’s involved with processing emotions and many other executive functionings.
To remind you, the five triggers are:
- Immature brain development
- Your stress
Tantrums can help your child learn how to deal with stress and assertiveness later in life. I know you want to get rid of them but it’s important to understand that sometimes not possible, however, if try not to trigger them, you will have much more peace and love in your home.
Sometimes, we all need help, Often parents ask me if their child’s behaviour is this normal or is there something wrong. ?
The answer lies in not just looking at the behaviour you see. It can also lie in the intensity of the response and how long the response lasts before your child can return to calm. Do they behave in this way for lots of situations, contexts and over a period of time? So one or two incidents don’t count. The key is, how often, and how consistently. Does this tick any boxes for you? If so then you may want to seek help.
So I would love to hear how you manage your child’s tantrums.
Be the best parent you can be and try to do one action today to make your child feel safe, secure and loved.
With love Catherine
Contact me with one of your questions and do attend my workshop on managing meltdowns and anger in February 2018, make 2018 the year you have the tools to manage your child’s behaviour.