Every parent wants a secure, loving, and joyful connection with their child. It makes everything you do worthwhile. A secure connection is what makes our children cooperate. There are so many ways that you can do this. Here are some simple ideas you can do easily daily. They could be part of your routine.
Strengthen Your Connection by being Physical.
We often underestimate the power of touch. Hugs are essential for connection. Don’t you feel better when someone holds you? Try and hug your child throughout the day. Tousel their hair, nudge them up close, lie down with them. Physical contact is just as important to teenagers, who need it too; you must choose the moment.
Strengthen your connection by giving your Child a Massage.
We are social creatures, and we don’t fully understand the physiological effects of touch, but we know that it increases social bonds and cooperation. Research shows that Oxytocin ( the calm down and social bonding hormone) is released through massage, decreasing the stress hormone. You don’t need to massage the whole body; the feet, back and arms work. Your child will love it and will, in turn, be calmer and more cooperative.
Some Simple Things to Do
We underestimate those small and regular moments of connection that are just as important as a big trip away or a big present. I am a lover of simple things: play and activities. H re is a Facebook post I did some time ago with a few suggestions.
Words that Promote Connection
Language is essential in relationships. You say, and the tone you use can enormously impact your connection. Here are some phrases to try…
I love you this big ( big open arms)
Make up silly ways to tell them how much you love them
I love you from the earth to the moon and back
You made my day by……
Make up a pet name, yours and theirs ( mine was Toots in my family)
Tell them you missed them when they’ve been away
Tell them what you are thinking about them during the day when they are at school.
I am so happy to see you, I’ve been waiting for that smiley face all day
No one other than you gives such great hugs!
I hope this gives you some ideas, do put more on my Facebook page.
Lastly, always say that I love you, whatever you do or say forever. When your child knows they are loved unconditionally no matter what, the connection and attachment between you will be secure for life. I hope your summer is full of harmony and joy.
