Are you tired, feeling guilty and not sure how to help you or your child sleep? You are in the right place. I offer gentle evidenced based sleep advice for parents and children from 7 months -13 years of age. Be a proactive parent, help your family now with some evidenced-based advice and information on sleep.
Why is Sleep so Important?:
Sleep is one of the mainstays of living a healthy successful life and is one of the biggest challenges for parents. Actually, we don’t really know why we sleep but scientist Rebecca Reh at Harvard University notes four possible reasons:
- Recovery – rest for the body, cell growth, housekeeping for body
- Protection – keeping quiet and still reduces risk from predators
- Energy regulation – use less energy when asleep
- Memory consolidation – formation of long-term memories and learning.
- Growth Hormone is stimulated ( yep, sleep helps children to grow)
How do we sleep?
There are two systems a 24-hour cycle called circadian rhythm and the Homeostatic sleep drive. They work together: We are not born with circadian rhythm so our sleep cycle develops:
- It is controlled by Melatonin
- Melatonin is the hormone that regulates sleep
- Melatonin production depends on the light
- Exposing eyes to light during the day especially the morning increases melatonin at night
- Exposing eyes to the light in the evening decreases melatonin
Homeostatic Sleep Drive
Although it has a complicated name, it is easy to understand. The longer you stay awake, the sleepier you are. Sleep drive essentially is your likelihood of falling asleep at a given time. Interestingly, this phenomenon is caused by the gradual accumulation of a neurotransmitter called adenosine during the day which is gradually reduced during sleep.
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Why can it be so tricky getting my baby/toddler sleep, a bit of the science
Babies are not born with a 24-hour wake/sleep cycle ( Circadian Rhythm) It can take up to six months. It is really important that you try to help your baby develop the right cues for sleep.
Here is a great tip from Gwen Dewar Parenting Science to help your baby/child now ( a great Website)
Studies show that babies adapt more quickly when parents provide them with the right “zeitgebers,” or environmental cues about the time of day (Custodio et al 2007; Lohr et al 1999; Tsai et al 2012). So expose your baby to natural daylight, and involve your baby in the stimulating hustle and bustle of your daytime activities. When evening falls, protect your baby from exposure to artificial lighting. ( Remove lights on the blue spectrum, replace with lights on the red/Amber Spectrum).
What does a Regular Sleep Routine Look like?
It can take time for you to develop a regular routine but keep going and as your baby matures into a toddler, a good bedtime routine should not take longer than 45 minutes and be simply:
What you signs and symptoms to look for if your child is sleep deprived
Remember your child can’t judge if they sleep deprived, they need your help!
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Common Sleep Problems for Babies:
- Parental Stress: Picking up on Mommy and Daddy stress, your child may be picking up on your stress or low mood and may need more reassurance at night, ( the sleep state is a long time to be away from mummy and daddy if the day has been fraught)
- Inability to self-soothe: Often, babies will fall asleep easily when held, rocked etc by their parents, but wake up right away when set down. Babies may still be learning to self-soothe.
- Daytime and nighttime reversal: As young babies have not yet developed circadian rhythms, they may not have night and day straight yet. Some get them mixed up, sleeping all day and then wanting to stay up at night.
- Sleep regressions: During certain periods of development, babies may be especially sleep-challenged. As they develop motor skills, grow teeth, or learn new things, they may have more trouble sleeping.
- Nighttime feedings: Most babies won’t sleep through the night until they are six months or older. Very young babies will need multiple night feedings — exhausting, but necessary. One to two night feedings are normal for most babies, but three or more may be excessive.
- Nighttime stimulation: While feeding or changing your baby at night, they can get stimulated. This may make them more fully awake and cause difficulties falling back asleep. Parents should take care to avoid fully rousing babies in the night.
- Separation anxiety: Young children can develop separation anxiety, often expressed as a need for one or both parents at night. This is normal and they should grow out of it
If you feel that your baby’s sleep is a problem, contact me for a consultation from 7 months ( I do not work with babies younger than this and I do not promote them crying it out! I use slow and gentle strategies that may take longer. I help with:
- Helping you to teach your baby to self-soothe
- How to help your baby to go to sleep on his own without rocking, movement or feeding or staying with them until they fall asleep.
- Establishing naps and a routine
- Attachment issues
Common Sleep Problems I work with preschoolers to age 12:
- Nighttime fears and anxiety
- Helping your child sleep in their own bed,
- Establishing a bedtime routine
- Teaching them to self-soothe
- Waking up in the night
- Resisting going to bed.
Common Traps parents fall into!
Are you struggling with bedtimes and sleep right now.?
What do all families have in common when they come to a sleep consultation?
- All of you have read lots on the internet, books and have tried sleep training and failed.
- Many of you may have bedtimes that are an hour long and you are missing time together as a couple.
- Some of you will have tried for three days and then given up.
- Has this resulted in you feeling guilty and made your child feel a bit more resistant?
So it’s not too late, stop feeling guilty, help you and your family have a goods night sleep contact me for a consultation:
How do you work?
Sometimes one consultation with me will be enough to get you or your child on the right track. But these things can take time, especially if your child cannot self-soothe or if you have a long-standing issue.
- A one-off consultation ( face to face in the clinic, telephone) for an hour and a half – £95 ( paid in advance via PayPal, it is not refundable but happy to rearrange if you give me 48 hours notice)
- For talks within your company or a group ( please contact me for fees)
- Further Sessions are at the hourly rate or you can book six for £375
I can provide a free 10-minute call to discuss your issues, which can be booked in advance.
What happens in a consultation?
Step one – consultation
Prior to a session, I will request a sleep diary of at least three days. This will include details of naps and feeds. My focus is on gentle strategies in combination with building strong and secure attachments. It’s vital your child learns to self-soothe. My strategies are not about disguised controlled crying. I find a successful outcome is one that the family feels comfortable with and then this makes it easier and safe for your child. Please note I cannot diagnose medical disorders, you may need other treatment from your GP or Pediatrician
Step two – Consultation and design of the sleep plan
We meet or talk on the telephone and I take a full history and then following this email you the plan that is tailored to your family’s needs.
Step three – follow-up
Depending on which option you choose, face to face in the clinic, email or telephone follow-up will either be included as part of your cost or you can pay as you go. A gentle approach can take longer, so this is important to consider if you want to choose to work with me.
Contact me if you would like to book a sleep consultation.