Unfortunately, children are born with an unfinished brain, and they have to develop their capacity for self-control/ self-regulation. Research shows that the way you interact with your child in the early years can have long-term effects on their brain function, chemical balance, and emotional regulation. The Developing Child Institute at Harvard discusses this clearly in this video.
Between the ages 0-7, It is normal for a child to struggle with executive functioning skills such as:
- Organising time and materials
- Making decisions
- Shifting from one situation to another ( sequencing)
- Controlling emotions
- Inhibition and impulsivity
- Learning from past mistakes
This may explain why they have emotional and behavioural difficulties such as:
- Tantrums, meltdowns
- Hit, bite and kick
- Run into a road, or they may not be able to get dressed or follow your instructions
- They may struggle with their siblings and
- Have difficulties at school
- Be oppositional and defiant
Even though your child’s brain is developing, your child’s temperament ( a child with a complex character is challenging for parents to manage), your mental health and genetic loading may also impact their emotions and behaviour causing everyone distress or anger.
It’s hard to know when to seek help, and there are many reasons parents seek help from me, a trained professional and a mum who navigated through all the developmental stages. Sometimes parents attend if they feel out of control or disempowered, they have read all the parent books and tried everything, but nothing works. Sometimes, they don’t enjoy being with their children and want to improve relationships. In addition, they would like relationships with families members to improve, leading to cooperation and strong connections. There are many ways to strengthen your bond, enable collaboration, and feel empowered, so do contact me for a consultation.