What causes Anxiety?We do not know what caused anxiety. However, there are several agreed causes:
Family FactorsJust as your child can inherit your brown hair, green eyes, and nearsightedness, a child can also inherit that parent’s anxiety. It is not your fault, but sometimes they may learn anxiety from family members who are noticeably stressed or anxious around your child. For example, a child whose parent is a perfectionist may become a perfectionist too. Parents can also contribute to their child’s anxiety without realising it.
Your Child’s AmygdalaSome children are born with a sensitive amygdala, which is the part of the brain that controls the threat response. Your Child’s Temperament Several theories show that if your child has a sensitive temperament, they are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression, although this is not always the case.
Anxiety Symptoms, You may notice your child suffering from Physical Symptoms such as:
- Lots of tummy aches
- Feeling sick
- Feeling dizzy
- Dry mouth
- Wanting to go to the toilet a lot
- Not being hungry or wanting to eat too much
You may notice that your child suffers from many negative thoughts and “big feelings”, such as
- Worrying about family’s health and preoccupied with death
- Thinking that something will go wrong
- Feeling shy and embarrassed
- Up and down emotions such as meltdowns one minute then feeling scared the next
You may notice certain behaviours such as:
Behavioural Symptoms of Anxiety
- Marked avoidance of certain situations that they used to do. ( people, school, places, and animals) and may start to impact their day to day life.
- In younger children, you may notice extreme aggression or meltdowns directed or distress and extreme crying before a situation.
- Not wanting to go to bed or sleep alone. Nighttime fears, waking in the night, and lots of nightmares.
- Safety behaviours, children develop routines that they need to do to feel safe and keep their anxiety at bay. Other safety behaviours are seeking constant reassurance from you. Please note safety behaviours offer temporary relief and sometimes maintain the anxiety.
- Find it hard to separate from you and want to cling to you.
- Some children do not speak in certain situations, ” selective mutism.”
- Some children develop fears around illness; they think they are ill but are anxious.
What types of Anxiety are there?
Generalised Anxiety ( GAD)All of us suffer from worries and anxiety from time to time; however, children who present with generalised anxiety have many fears, thoughts, and feelings. They may want to avoid certain situations; this can be hard for you to understand. You may feel that they are unrealistic and can become annoyed with anxiety, but their worries interfere with their day to day life. Seek support when your child has been showing signs of anxiety for more than a few weeks if their mood has lowered, your child is distressed, schoolwork has suffered, and they are not socialising or enjoying activities in the same way they did before. Contact me for a Consultation. Separation anxiety is a normal developmental stage. During these ages, it is normal to have fears of separating from your parents or carers, and children are dependent on their carers, so it’s natural they will feel vulnerable when they are apart. Most children grow out of it; for some children, it doesn’t become more manageable, and they don’t grow out of it; these children may have a hard time saying goodbye, have lots of tummy aches or headaches and cling. If the distress prevents them from participating in age-appropriate activities and learning opportunities like joining sports teams or attending school, seek help and support. Contact me for a consultation.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD )OCD is a severe persuasive disorder where your child will experience frequent obsessive and intrusive thoughts (or obsessions), often followed by uncontrollable urges and compulsions. For more information, go to my Blog.
Phobias and FearsA phobia is a persistent, excessive and unreasonable fear of an object or situation. 5% of children and 16% of teenagers have a phobia in the UK. Phobias are different from usual fears as they usually become more severe with age. Children and teenagers with phobias can feel huge shame about their fears, often because messages from others may be that they are being silly or overreacting. I’ve worked with common phobias, are being sick ( Emetophobia), dentists, bees, toilets and spiders, and more. It can be really distressing for children and hugely debilitating for parents when you are out and you feel you have to avoid certain situations. If you need help, contact me for a Consultation.
Social AnxietyWhilst we all might worry about what other people think of us and may become anxious. Children who have social anxiety avoid going to clubs, eating in front of others and many other social events. This might mean they become socially withdrawn and may even develop school refusal. For more on Social Anxiety versus shyness, read more at my blog.
- As if they are dying
- They are trembling
- They can’t breathe
- Shake uncontrollably
- Racing heartbeat
Recognising Normal Fears versus Anxiety DisorderFears and worries are a regular part of your child’s development. Most children can report having several fears at any given age. If the fear is not interfering with their daily life (e.g., sleep, school performance, social activities) or your family’s life, you will most likely not need to bring your child to a health professional. Anxiety disorders occur when:
- The intensity of the fear or worry is so high it starts to impact your child’s functioning and well-being.
- It impacts family life.
- The anxiety and level of worry are out of context with their developmental stage and age.