I guess what do all families have in common when they come to a sleep consultation? All of you have read lots on the internet, books and have tried sleep training and failed. Many of you will have tried for three days and then given up. Has this resulted in you feeling guilty and made your child feel a bit more resistant?
I want to inform you of the six common traps, so you can all have a good nights sleep.
1. Your child does not have the capacity to self-soothe.
Normally infants develop the capacity to self-soothe between 4-6 months. What does self-soothe mean? This the skill to help your baby settle and sleep alone. Most babies are not natural self-soothers, so they need guidance not just be put down and let them cry it out. It is NOT advised to let children cry it out before the age of six months.
A well-structured bedtime is a key to helping your child sleep. Children whose bedtimes chop and change continue to have poor sleep. Bedtimes should not take over an hour. Keep it simple no more than 30 minutes. Bath, massage and bedtime cuddles,and story should be enough. Try not to play with your child before bed, they get excited and can’t sleep.
3.Missing the core cause
If your child has obstructive sleep apnea, cows milk allergy, separation anxiety, anxiety, nightmares, asthma, pain, then it’s best to treat these first. You will find your sleep plan will not work. Its good to see a pediatrician to rule out any medical problems or see someone like me to help treat nighttime fears or separation anxiety and anxiety.
4.Not being ready
It’s really important to start something new when both parents want to give it a go. A joined up consistent approach is really important. It’s OK to wait if one parent feels a bit mixed or if you are going on holiday, or when you go on holiday or even if work is really stressful. Its really not good to start if they have a new sibling.
5.Moving your child to own room and cot to bed
So many parents want to do it all at once but if your child has had a really hard time sleeping in his own room, then its going to be really difficult to move rooms and cot to bed all at once. Take each step at a time and wait several weeks following moving into their room or from their cot to bed.
6.The 3 to 7-day rule
If we start to a change a behavior, then there is always a time its gets worse before it gets better. This is the same for sleep, it can be really hard when your child is upset or cross, parents give up after 3 days. If you kept going then it should start getting better. This is different for those children who have yet the capacity to self-soothe, it can take longer as we have to work on this first.
In my experience, the inconsistency and not been able to keep going are the ones that are most common. Let me help you and your child have a goods night sleep, click here to contact me.